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I've never been in a wedding. Isn't that weird? And no, you can't… - Are we not men?
I've never been in a wedding. Isn't that weird? And no, you can't argue that I've been married before, because JP weddings do not count. I'm talkin real weddings. I've never ever been in one. Ever. There's a test on Emode and one of the questions is how mnay times have you been a bridesmaid. I wonder how many other 32 year old women can say "Never".

Well, surely, the first conclusion that one would come to is that I have very few female friends. This is true. But as I thought about it more, I realized that I've *never* had a close friend get married while they were my close friend. My best friend from high school got married, but by the time she got married we were no longer close; in fact, she was very close to my sister and my sister I believe was a bridesmaid. Brian is my only close friend who is married - and he got married during a 3-4 year period in which we had almost no contact whatsoever. And it's always that way. People never get married while they are a close friend of mine. A good friend of mine from college, who in college you would have expected would have asked me to be a bridesmaid, ended up getting married 2 or so years after we were no longer close. (Not bad blood - just grow apart from people sometimes.)

I find this odd, at age 32. I'm sure some people are saying "Why is that odd?" Ask everyone you know who is 30 or older how many weddings they've been involved in that weren't their own. Most people have at least been an usher or something in one. Most people have close friends who get married. I was thinking back to all the weddings I've been to, and I can honestly say that none of them were close friends. In fact I think I went just because it was the social event to go to. Or because someone I was dating was going. I'm OK with the never being a bridesmaid thing, I really don't have many female friends who I'm that close to. But... it doesn't matter what social circle I was running in, who my close friends were, or how long we were close friends. No one close to me gets married.

Now time for the obvious question. Is it that I hinder marriage? Or is it that I gravitate towards those who don't get married? I mean, I'm quite grateful that I don't know anything about a "fitting" for a bridesmaids dress, or the outrageous size one's butt appears in such attire, but it's still very odd. You cannot deny that it is odd. Or, you can try, and I will either believe you or logic you into submission.

I'm all : wonky
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From:valamelmeo
I'm a babe magnet.
Date: March 20th, 2002 - 12:47 am
 
it is a goal of mine never to be anyone's bridesmaid. in fact, i hope i'm not one in the wedding i have to go to in may (my cousin's). but thanks for the tipoff that i have to not be friends with you if i want to get married ;)
From:macklinr
Phwoar!
Date: March 20th, 2002 - 12:54 am
 I challenge you!
I've been to a few weddings. And soon I'll be playing a key no-talking role in one.
And be surrounded by godmdaned baptists *shudder*
I've been invited to more, but didn't go.

I've been to enough to know that I don't like em. Too much production. But I understand their rite-of-passage value.

It's not inconceivable that you'd not go to a wedding. Wedding's are not (often) common events, and often close friends ot family at the time are invited. Just think of how many friends of yours were married during times you we're in contact with them? Well, they aren't going to get remarried anytime soon, are they?

People get married all the time. But you know very, very few of those people. So I'm just sayin' it's not that odd. That's like saying "I've never has an apple in my life". It's not odd, just means you haven't done something. There's a nice collection of stuff not done if you think about it.

Now, beat the login outta me ;)
From:raditzsex
Are you gonna eat that?
Date: March 20th, 2002 - 01:06 am
 Re: I challenge you!
Your logic is flawed.
Point 1: the number of people that I am close to now that are married is 4. Brian/Tammy, and my parents. Most people go to many weddings between their 22nd and 25th year. Those are The Wedding Years. I went to exactly 0 weddings during that time. I think I've been to 4 weddings, ever.
Point 2: Weddings are common in the age group 22-25. Most of my friends during those years were 22-25. Not like now, when my friends ages range from 20-40. So it's illogical to say that weddings are not common.
Point 3: Sure, weddings are boring as hell. But less so, surely, when it's one of your best friends? I wouldn't know. But it's not that I've been invited to weddings and haven't gone. In fact, that is irrelevant, because the point here is that CLOSE friends do not get married while I'm close to them. I don't think I've ever cried at a wedding, except for one time when it was because I had just been dumped by a fiance.
Point 4: Find another 32 year old who has never had a close friend get married while they were close. Social rejects who barely have 2 friends to rub together don't count, either. I mean real people.

See, the point is about close friends. I've had 0 close friends get married while we were close, and I've buried several close friends. That's kind of creepy now I think about it.

I feel that at age 32, I should have been to more weddings of friends than funerals of friends.
From:macklinr
Stop asking about milk already.
Date: March 20th, 2002 - 01:09 am
 Re: I challenge you!
Wait, yeah, my logic is flawed because I thought you said that you've never been *to* a wedding. Wrong argument.

I can't read.

I'm going to be giving someone away in January. If all was right with the cosmos, I wouldn't be.

Dude, you wanna be in a wedding? Perform it. And make money.
From:lobotomymonkey
Can you feel the love?
Date: March 20th, 2002 - 03:40 am
 
I've only ever been "to" one wedding. And that was when my mom got remarried about 5 years ago. And I was "in" that wedding, inasmuch as I escorted my grandmother up the aisle. But I've never been to a first wedding.
My sister, and a bunch of my friends, are in that 'might as well be married' state, and so I expect the wedding invitations to come pouring in within the next 2 or 3 years.
My closest friends who are married are all #bluemidget folks. Poly/Sardy, LadyStar/Fruitbat, DaveTekk/GennyMutant, ...

I hope to be in my *own* wedding (or at least be married without the big deal ceremony) before I'm 30, but that's a different story entirely.
From:ladylainie
I saved you a seat.
Date: March 21st, 2002 - 12:03 pm
 I blame your parents!
It could be the atmosphere in which you were raised - Your parents were married once and never made a big deal of it. They never whipped out the albums and sat down to discuss the wedding - hell, I don't even know who was in that wedding past the bride and groom. All of their "close" friends who were in their wedding fell out of their lives before you were born. Also, it's not like you and your mom ever sat down and dreamily planned that perfect wedding by the lake or whatever. So when it comes to that, it's not like that was ever an important and precious thing in your family life. So, I blame the parents. Of course, I'm become very adept at blaming parents for everything - so maybe it's just me!
From:raditzsex
I'm a babe magnet.
Date: March 21st, 2002 - 01:01 pm
 Re: I blame your parents!
That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. How can my parents possibly be accountable for the actions - or non-actions - of my close friends? How could they have any influence over when Brian got married? Or when people fall out of my life?
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