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Romance in 2004? - Are we not men?
Romance in 2004?
Inspired by shawnistrek082's filtered post about relationships, that most of you can't see anyway. Just giving props, youknow.

Seems like romantic relationships are all about what someone is willing to put up with. Status quo says that men are willing to put up with 25 pairs of shoes in the closet that don't belong to him, long discussions about clothing, and occasionally being nagged to take the damn garbage out. Women are supposed to put up with doing all the cooking and cleaning, plus football and Bruce Willis movies. I guess these people think it's a trade-off, or maybe they really enjoy it that way. Although, if they did, there wouldn't be any eye-rolling, and there is.
So, those of us who can't put up with the status quo have to find another person who is not only willing to put up with what we dish out, but who is only dishing out what we can put up with. Finding such a perfect match (wanna call it a soul mate? go ahead -- you do that.) takes a lot of time and energy, and I'm not sure I'm entirely convinced that there exists a partner for everyone, so it may be all for naught, anyway.
Does it sound cynical? Yeah, probably, but really, a cynic is just a romantic with the blues. I'd rather think I'm being practical, because I don't think I have the blues.
It is certainly worth it to some people to spend the time and energy finding a person that fits their tolerances. It is worth it to others to learn to yeild on things they wouldn't normally. In order to do either of those things, however, a person must be aware of his/her own tolerances. It is not necessarily, oddly enough, to be aware of one's own annoyances, because it is the responsibility of the other party to know if he/she can tolerate those.
So, now that I've managed to take all the romance out of romance, what good does that do anyone, especially me?
For those of you keeping score, I do this analysis type of thing about once a year or so. In 2000, the last time I was dating, I realized that dating was a lot of work, and decided to not date until 2002 (at the time, I had no idea if I could keep this promise to myself or not). I did not date in 2002. Nor did I date in 2003. No one cares by now, but the EOY question is "will I date in 2004?"

(OK, some of you are saying "You can't just choose when to date!" and that may be true, but you can sure as hell choose when not to date.)

I think the answer is "no". It's scary and takes too much time and energy. I think I only wrote this up to help me with some characterizations in a screenplay I'm working on in which I want my main characters to have a Nick and Nora Charles (The Thin Man) kind of relationship, so I better know how it works, eh. Hell, this might end up being the theme of it.
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I've been goosed!
Date: December 29th, 2003 - 01:19 pm
I heard a lot of women like The Whole Nine Yards, for what it's worth... I've never seen it.
I tend to agree on the "what people are willing to put up with" idea. But I think that's just something common to a lot of aspects of human nature. People think they can't be friends with people who do something that annoys them. Sure, in romantic relationships it's tested a bit harder, but it's there regardless. I've been thinking that maybe each person sort of has their own tolerance meter.
Anyway, you're right, not everyone can have someone for a romantic relationship unless 6 million more women than men decide to go gay, and there are then all good matches.
Well, I guess what's important is your happiness, and if that doesn't depend on a relationship, well... *shrug*
Good luck on your screenplay, you've made me interested. Too bad I'm not anyone with power to do anything with it...
Date: December 29th, 2003 - 01:31 pm
Yeah, I think you're right. But when it's friends, you can put up with more because there is never a threat that the irritant will be in your home on a daily basis.

Eh, I write screenplays because they're there, not because I hope to sell one. It's more practice for when I get my own animated series :)
Stop asking about milk already.
Date: December 29th, 2003 - 01:39 pm
Yeah, I agree. There's definitely more of a commitment with romantic relationships than with friendly ones.

Have any broad ideas for an animated series yet? (You don't have to give them up on the internet, mind you, I'm just curious)
Date: December 29th, 2003 - 02:27 pm
I have loads of ideas. What I'd really like to see happen in the industry is a return to Chuck Jones style "cute" animation (like in the animated Grinch special, or in What's Opera, Doc, or Rabbit of Seville). There's also a distinct lack of anthropomorphs these days (although I am wearing one on my butt). I think the only way this can really work is a return to the 6-minute format. 11 minutes is enough time to fit a whole sitcom plot, and sitcoms are lame-ass.
It would be mega-fantastic if the US-produced action cartoons would pick up the japanese art styles. I would be totally in love with X-men:Evo if they'd tweak that style a bit. Teen Titans is moving in the right direction, art-wise, but the writing is still a little weak (not bad, just not up to val standards ;). If that style can overcome the Justice League style, with plots and characters as involved as X-men:Evo (which has really good art, just not as good as could be IMO), I think there could be a whole new place for action cartoons in the US.

For more updates like this, add makaioh to your friends list. Seriously! Yeah, most of my recent posts have just been love-fests for my fave shows, but I do discuss serious topics in there, too, like what I typed here. I'm sure I typd something like it in there somewhere.
I've been goosed!
Date: December 29th, 2003 - 02:47 pm
There are series with some definite anime influences out there. My Life as a Teenage Robot is one, and Totally Spies (which is probably only because it's outsourced to some Japanese studio).

I do read that journal occasionally, but only when I feel like hearing cartoon-related things as opposed to things related to actual living beings :)
I've been goosed!
Date: December 29th, 2003 - 02:59 pm
I'd just like to point out that My Life as a Teenage Robot and Totally Spies both suck ass.
OK, granted I have not really allowed Robot to even almost impress me. I saw it when it was on Kablam, and it stunk, so I have feared it greatly.
First time I saw an ad for Totally Spies, I thought it was going to be very cool. I sortof expected Sailor Moon meets KND or something. I was disappointed. Holly isn't even really keen on it, and she was stoked when she saw the first ads, too. Can't argue with the opinion of an 8 yr old girl on these matters, you know :)

The reason I mention that these suck (OK, I know Spies has had low ratings, but I dunno about Robot) is that the only way something is going to get a trend started is if it's mega popular. I have more to say but I'm going home now.

Cool, I didn' tknow if you even knew about the makaioh LJ or not.
I saved you a seat.
Date: December 29th, 2003 - 04:22 pm
As a standalone series, I like MLATR pretty well. I agree that Totally Spies sucks though. I was just making the point that there already are cartoons for the American market with Japanese-influenced art in there.
Not too sure what would make anime art more popular than the anime that already exists... Pokemon, Dragonball, Yuugioh, they're plenty popular.

Oh yeah, speaking of Japanese-influenced art, http://sinfest.net/d/20031227.html might amuse you.
I'm a babe magnet.
Date: December 30th, 2003 - 04:33 pm
Well, it's my opinion that DBZ was the impetus behind most of the action cartoons America produces today. It's popularity showed that we do, in fact, love our action cartoons, but please remove the camp.
Japanese-influenced art has been confined for the most part to the character designs. Powerpuff Girls is highly anime-influenced, but it doesn't at all look like anime. There's more to the art form than just the character models. Klasky-Csupo (ugh!) is about the only producer who is using the level of detail and immersion that even comes close to what we get in anime. And I don't just mean the really beautiful stuff. Nothing made in the US has even the richness of Pokemon, which is relatively simply drawn.
There are lots of American action cartoons that have anime elements in them. But no one has taken all of those elements that make shows like DBZ, Pokemon, and Yugioh popular. OK, Pokemon and Yugioh are probably bad examples, because the popularity might be due to the games.
Genndy Tartakovsky had something with Samurai Jack, saying he'd never seen a show with enough action for him, but sorta ignored everything else that made DBZ the worldwide phenomenon that it is. Jack is Goku with no personality and no friends. Great plot, great setting, bad characters.

Nobody's taking a holistic approach to action cartoons. A piece here, a character there. Anyway, I could go on and on and on (and I have) but I'll stop now. This probably made less sense than the last reply.
Date: December 29th, 2003 - 09:45 pm
I don't know about anyone else, but most of my breakups have been about tolerance. There usually weren't a lot of arguments, just a buildup of little frustrations until I couldn't take anymore. Which is ironic, because I don't actually have a very high tolerance for that sort of thing, but it's surprising what people will put up with in order to feel loved and wanted (and to get some), so by the time I finally get so miserable that I'm willing to give all that up, it's a bit messy.

I don't think I'll ever be ready to date again.
I've been goosed!
Date: December 29th, 2003 - 11:08 pm
Me either. But I'm willing to accept that I could change my mind at any given time.
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